Have faith in the average successful marriage.

This was shared by McKenzie C. A person who not only writes really well, but plays the violin beautifully also!

This week I read an old conference talk by Boyd K. Packer from 1981 that reminded me of this blog.
"We often seek for things we cannot seem to find when they are within easy reach- ordinary, obvious
things," he says. There is a beauty in the ordinary (and in the "average!"), the things you look over because they are just right in front of your face. In this case, the ordinary thing is marriage.

I love this statement. Elder Packer says, "Broken marriages are not typical. Remember that trouble attracts attention! We travel the highway with thousands of cars moving in either direction without paying much attention to any of them. But should an accident occur, we notice immediately. If it happens again, we get the false impression that no one can go safely down the road. One accident may make the front page, while a hundred million cars that safely pass are not regarded as worth mentioning."

Sure, you could say that this was 1981. Times have changed since then! Broken marriages are typical now.

I don't think so.

Let us delight in the average! Two people, both with many insecurities, flaws, and selfish desires, who try every day to make their marriage work. What a beautiful, wonderful thing. Elder Packer teaches us, "Even a rickety marriage will serve a good purpose as long as two people struggle to keep it from falling down around them."

I'm a stereotypical Mormon girl. I got married young and fast. Many people would, and do, think I'm crazy. But it is the best decision I've ever made. Marriage is empowering. Marriage, more than any other wonderful thing that has happened to me, has made me a better person. One of the biggest reasons marriage is so good for me is because it is so hard. I've been blessed, I have a loving, righteous, hard-working husband. But that doesn't mean that it's easy. The Strength of Youth says "Strong families require effort." Oh, how true that statement is. There is little room for selfishness in families, and in marriage especially. That strengthens us.

Marriage has made me practice forgiveness every day. Marriage has made me practice repentance every day. Marriage has made me understand my divine worth as a daughter of God. Marriage has strengthened my relationship with God.

This is why the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints stresses marriage. It is for our individual good.

In the words of Elder Packer, "Do not lose faith in marriage. Not even if you have been through the unhappiness of a divorce and are surrounded with pieces of a marriage that has fallen apart... If you have had no opportunity for marriage or if you have lost your companion in death, keep your faith in marriage... No relationship has more potential to exalt a man and a woman than the marriage covenant. No obligation in society or in the Church supersedes it in importance."

Have faith in the average successful marriage.

1 comment:

  1. Great post! And great talk reference. My favorite quote from President Packer's talk was:

    "One cannot degrade marriage without tarnishing other words as well, such words as boy, girl, manhood, womanhood, husband, wife, father, mother, baby, children, family, home."

    How prophetic!